How to Write a Grooms Speech

I often get asked for advice on writing the “perfect” Groom’s speech. This isn’t surprising because not everyone likes talking in front of an audience. Also, couples put an awful lot of pressure on themselves to make sure everything is perfect – including the speeches.

The Groom’s speech is traditionally all about thanking people and talking about your wife and your new life together. The Best Man’s speech is expected to be more lighthearted and entertaining. So in some ways the Groom has the easier speech to deliver.

I’ve put together a few guidelines to help you write your Groom’s speech.

Thank People for Coming

On behalf of yourself and your bride thank people for coming to help you celebrate your special day. If there are any key relatives or individuals who have travelled a long way it’s a nice touch to acknowledge them. If grandparents are present make a special point to thank them for coming. Thank guests for their wedding gifts.

Compliment the Bridesmaids

Thank the bridesmaids for doing a great job and tell them how fantastic they look. This always goes down well.

Thank the Best Man & Groomsmen

Mention any help that they have given you on the day. How have they managed to keep you sane on the lead up to the wedding day. Keep it brief though, now is not the time to tell funny stories about your time at school together or hurling matches. Remember it’s the Best Man’s job to entertain the audience.

Thank the Parents

Remember to thank both sets of parents. Acknowledge the support and love that they have given over the years.

Thank your Bride

This is the most important part of your speech. Compliment your bride and thank her for marrying you. Calling her your wife usually gets an ahhhh! from the relatives. Talk about how you met or a particular treasured moment that you both shared. Talk about your friendship – you don’t have to be too mushy. A heartfelt honest sentence or two should be enough.

Keep your speech short and practice it in front of the mirror. You need to get to the point where you can deliver it without mumbling or rushing.

If you’re nervous about your speech remember the people listening are friends and family – not strangers. They know you and they want you to have a great day.